(Un)Fear That Emotion...

Afraid...Are you afraid of heights? Are you ever afraid of being alone, with noone around to to surround you with love? Are you afraid of spiders? Are you afraid to get closed in an enclosed spaces? Are you afraid that you will lose people you deeply love? Are you afraid that you won't be able to pay the rent? Are you afraid to get involved in a car accident? Are you afraid of pain? Are you afraid you get infected with bacteriums when you don't wash your hands after every activity? Are there situations where you feel trapped in a mousetrap?

Personally I'm not afraid of dead, but I'm afraid of people leaving me. It hurts to think of not having my family and friends around me. But I know that saying goodbye is part of life. I'm afraid people are disappointed in me, that I can't live up there expectations. People love me for who I am, I know that, but I can't let that feeling go. I'm afraid of losing the total control of myself, that I get insane. I have a big fear to ride my car behind a van loaded with tree trunks. I got that fear after seeing the movie "Final destination 2."

Fear... in a way it doesn't help to live in a future you made black with your own thoughts. But nothing can be made up so real in your mind as fear. Fear is a survival mechanism that protects you when you are in danger. It warns you to escape from the situation you're afraid of. But in some situations there is no door to go throught and for you to leave the stage.

But fear is an emotion. And I know that humans are capable of influence their emotions. The things we're mostly afraid of are not impending dangers. Sometimes it is, and your fearlevel warns you and helps you to get out and protect yourself if it's possible. Some fears will overcome us, as a lifelesson. If it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger. Other fears are to control, simply by not letting yourself go in that particular situation. Then there are fears that you can overcome. When I was a child I had swimminglessons. And in one of those lessons I had to jump of the high diving board. Little Jade didn't want to jump, I was so afraid. But because of the influence the other kids watching me I did jump. And I loved it right away. Sometimes you fear the unknown.

Living in the present helps and knowing that there will be things in life we can't control, but are too overcome. Sometimes you cannot do that alone, I got help too. A teacher once told me, "Not be able does not excist." That sentence helps me, maybe it brings you further in controlling your fear...

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